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Passion is bigger than chocolates on Valentine’s Day


I once overheard someone mention that “Valentine’s Day was like amateur hour… Anyone can buy some flowers and a box of chocolates.” But you have to know, that if all you ever did for your spouse was just buy flowers and chocolates on Valentine’s Day, you wouldn’t have a great relationship. You’re spouse doesn’t know your passionate about them because of what you do one day out of the year… They know because of what you do daily. Any couple that’s been married for any length of time, can tell you that marriage is work. It’s easy for me to say “I love you” before I leave the house in the morning, it’s become a habit. But passion is describing why you love them. It’s the random phone call/text message in the middle of the day. It’s the time you give them regardless of your hectic day. It’s shutting off the TV, and genuinely caring about them. It’s more than the flowers and chocolates, It’s all about the thought behind the gift.

My wife, Melissa, and I met while working at an orphanage down in Saltillo, Mexico. Now Melissa has always been an artist, and even majored in art while in college at Kansas State. Me, I can’t make a stick figure look right! It’s really bad. But, here we are down at an orphanage in Mexico; I’m there to lead worship for a group that was visiting, and Melissa was there to paint wall murals. In fact, this particular trip was actually her 5th or 6th trip down to continue paint the murals on the walls for the kids. Beautiful, floor to ceiling depictions of Noah and the Ark, with every animal coming in two by two. Well, I had heard she played keyboard and could sing, and so I asked her to help me with worship one night. I planned on singing a song by Vineyard Worship that night called “Hungry”, and asked her to help by leading out on it. And at the very moment she started singing, I became passionate about her! I was whooped, hooked, and every other metaphor you can come up with!!! And the next day, what did I do??? I lied and told her I too could paint, just so I could be right beside her the whole day while she did murals. Those poor kids still don’t know what those animals were that I painted. For that matter, I don’t know what it was I painted, other than it was a light brown blob I called a bear. But I do know that I spent every waking minute next to Melissa as I knew this was the someone I was passionate about!

Predominately, we live in a culture today that has lost its passion for God and seeks no more than a “Valentine” relationship with Him. We show up once a week with our “flowers and box of chocolates” ready to check the “I did it” box. Our prayer life has been reduced down to a mere thank you before meals. And we have to wonder, are we really praying or are we just practicing a habit. Are we meaning “I love you” or are we just saying it because that’s what you’re supposed to do? Where’s the relationship!!! Are you daily showing God habits, or are you truly seeking a passionate relationship with Him?


I was recently reading “The Pursuit of God” by A.W. Tozer, a pastor/preacher from the early 1900’s, and came across this quote…

How tragic that we in this dark day have had our seeking done for us by our teachers. Everything is made to center upon the initial act of “accepting” Christ and we are not expected thereafter to crave any further revelation of God to our souls. We have been snared in the coils of a {falsified} logic which insists that if we have found Him, we need no more seek Him…

In the midst of this great chill, there are some, I rejoice to acknowledge, who will not be content with shallow logic. They will admit the force of the argument, and then turn away with tears to hunt some lonely place and pray, “O God, show me Thy Glory.” They want to taste, to touch with their hearts, to see with their inner eyes the wonder that is God.

That is passion.

A desire to taste, to touch with your heart, to see with your inner eye the wonder that is God. I encourage you today to find your passion. To, as Paul wrote in 2 Timothy, “fan into flame, the spiritual gift God gave you.” Don’t settle for giving God a hasty gift of flowers and chocolates, God is not a boring religious obligation. Let your gift flow from out of your passion for Him. With passion, no one has to make you read the Bible. With passion, no one has to make you go to church. No one has to make you passionately be involved with a lost and a broken world. It comes out of your love relationship with God.

It is just what you do. It’s passion.

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