I recently was reading a saddening study that stated that the few weeks after Valentine’s Day are now being referred to as D-Day in some scientific circles. The research-based this on the growing number of divorce papers that are served during this time, more so than any other time of year. Reading this, got me to thinking about the number of people that are holding out hope for something different, only to have their hopes dashed by a haphazard attempt at reconciliation through a tent sale closeout on last-minute flowers and a “lucky if you get a good one” assortment of chocolates. (I’ll admit I’m a sucker for anything coconut, but slip me some pink nougat mess and I’m thinking you just might hate me.)
It’s bewildering the things that we put our hope in, only to be let down again and again. With a sense of incompleteness, we look to the people around us to fulfill needs or desires that are an undue burden to force on anyone. If we view relationships as a tool to get what we need, we will always be left wanting. No man, no woman will ever be able to “complete” you, and expecting them to be able to is not just naively misguided, but is setting your relationship up for hurt and failure.
I believe that Alexander Pope was on to something truly deeper when he wrote that “hope springs eternal”. David sang a refrain in one of his psalms that eludes to the same, he said: “the Lord delights in those who fear Him, who put their hope in His unfailing love.” Both of these lines refer to placing your hope, not in things which can fail, but rather in a God who never fails. David also wrote in a couple other Psalms that some people put their hope in chariots or horses, or look at the grandeur of the mountains and expect them to bring about hope. But “no!” he said, our hope comes from the one who created it all! “The Lord our God!”
I encourage you to be made whole and complete through His work. You’ll find that the relationships around you, are a lot easier when you don’t require what they can’t give you anyway!
Ask for what end the heav’nly bodies shine,
Earth for whose use? Pride answers, ‘Tis for mine:’
-Alexander Pope “An Essay on Man”
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